What to do when your self-care sucks

Dear One,

Many of us have an on-again, off-again relationship with self-care.

But rather than thinking of yourself as either on or off the self-care wagon, you might give yourself some grace.

Some grace to recognize that priorities are often competing.

Grace to validate the limits of time, re$ources, accessibility, and what dominant culture capitalism makes (im)possible.

Grace to appreciate that sometimes you need to do *nothing* (or zone the f*ck out) before you can actively dedicate an hour to yet another scheduled activity, even if it seems like a good idea.

Grace to affirm that the world may not always feel like a particularly safe place for you, and the idea of putting yourself in the hands of someone or someplace that could negatively impact your nervous system feels hella vulnerable.

So if you're in a space where you feel like your self-care sucks, get curious. What's actually making it hard to access the things you think you want access to? Are you should-ing yourself? Is there a different, less obvious unmet desire regarding self-care? Do you need to do more? Or do you need to do less? Or do you need to try something different?

If the yoga mat is where self-care really does happen for you, and context is welcoming and supportive, then join me in upcoming classes, workshops, or trainings. And if you actually need to go axe throwing instead, I highly recommend Dave & Busters (the axes are plastic but with excellent heft).

Flow & Restore drop-in classes with me are Thursdays at 5:45-7pm, in-person and livestream/recorded at JP Centre Yoga.

And extra excitingly -- dates for the next Trauma-Informed Yoga Therapy training are posted! Get all the details for the 35hr professional training here. Reach out with any questions!

Holding some grace alongside you,

~Alex